“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.” ~Albert Einstein
One of the deepest acts of love we can offer others is supporting them in their lives as they grow into a more skilled and healed version of themselves. So often, we cling to the version of a friend, partner, or family member that we first knew, whether it be their old opinions, former habits, or the story we once told ourselves about who they are.
But growth is the very essence of being alive.
When someone in our lives changes their mind, pursues a new dream, or discovers a different truth within themselves, it can stir up feelings within us. Resentment, disappointment, or even fear may surface. These emotions are signals, not stop signs, as they invite us to pause and reflect on our attachment to the past.
Instead of resisting or judging, what if we leaned into observing their unfolding? What if we trusted that their evolution is not a loss, but an expansion of growth and self-discovery? Changing one’s opinion is not weakness; it is a sign of strength and courage. When we make room for these shifts in others, we show them that their self-discovery is safe with us.
If resentment shows up in us, acknowledge it without judgment. Ask yourself: “Why does this change upset me? What old belief or expectation from the past am I holding onto?” Use it as an opportunity to release control, loosen attachment, and practice empathy. The act of letting go of old beliefs in the face of discomfort is where true freedom and growth lie.
Don’t we long for grace from others as we learn, grow, and change? We hope for acceptance and understanding as we evolve.
Making room for others to grow means meeting them with curiosity instead of judgment. It says: “I honor who you are becoming. I love not just the person you were, but the person you are choosing to be.” At the same time, it gives us space to practice self-compassion as we navigate our own changes.
This kind of acceptance, both for others and ourselves, is not easy, because it challenges us. Yet it is a powerful act, and a necessary step in truly letting go
This week’s reflection: Think of someone in your life who is growing and in a place of discovery. Notice any resistance or resentment that arises within you. Then, consciously honor their journey and let it inspire you to let go of old beliefs about yourself (or them) that are holding you back in your own life.
Stretching alongside you,
Amy
