“When I notice myself worrying about ‘what other people will think,’ I find I’m usually not worried about any single person’s opinion.”~ James Clear, author of Atomic Habits
How often do we pause before making a choice, sharing a thought, or wearing something that feels truly “us”, not because one specific person might disapprove, but because of a vague, looming sense that someone might?
That invisible crowd in our heads can be LOUD, JUDGMENTAL, AND OFTEN ENTIRELY IMAGINED. It can be a story we tell ourselves, viewed through the lens of our lived experience.
Worry is rarely grounded in reality. It’s not usually so and so, or my colleague thinks… we are afraid of, but the idea of disapproval itself. When we fail to acknowledge the source of our fear, it grows into a shapeless, powerful force that keeps us small and holds us back.
One simple practice I’ve found helpful is to name the audience. When you hear that critical voice, ask yourself, “Whose opinion am I afraid of?” Often, you’ll realize you’re trying to appease an undefined, faceless crowd.
But, if it is a particular person that comes to mind, ask yourself why you need their approval, and what is the worst thing that could happen if you didn’t get it.
Take a deep breath.
You’re the only one who lives your life. Being authentic is to live in a way that feels right for you.
What would your day look like if you weren’t trying to win silent approval from people who may not even be watching, thinking of you, or even care?
What if your choices were driven by curiosity and in alignment with YOUR truth? Remember, in any situation, we are always at choice and have limitless options to consider.
This week, notice when you start to worry about ‘what other people will think’ takes over. Awareness is key to understanding this habit. Greet the tendency to worry with compassion, the belief that you have your own back, and then keep moving forward. Action is key. Do something! Anything! Long-term, your rewards for living your life as you see fit far outweigh the fear or worry of what other people think.
Stretching alongside you,
Amy 🌿
