“Be careful how you are talking to yourself because you are listening.”
— Lisa M. Hayes, coach and author
When was the last time you truly checked in with yourself, not to critique or correct, but to listen? We often extend compassion, patience, and encouragement to our loved ones. But when it comes to ourselves, that same kindness can be curiously absent.
Think about how you speak to a friend who is struggling. Do you judge them, rush them, or point out everything they’ve done wrong? Hopefully not. Hopefully, you offer support, remind them of their strengths, and let them know they’re not alone.
What if we gave the same grace to ourselves?
Being a good friend to yourself doesn’t mean ignoring your goals or avoiding self-reflection. It means treating yourself with the same warmth and honesty you’d give to someone you deeply care about. It’s saying, “I see you. I know this is hard. You’re doing your best, and that’s enough for today.”
Self-friendship shows up in small ways: Taking a breath before reacting. Allowing rest without guilt. Speaking to yourself with tenderness, compassion, and kindness. Setting boundaries not to shut others out, but to protect your peace. And yes, celebrate your little victories instead of brushing them aside.
This week, I invite you to notice your inner dialogue. Would you say those words to a friend? If not, catch yourself before you spiral and explore a kinder, more understanding narrative.
Accept that you are perfectly imperfect and doing your best.
“When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy.”
~ Kim McMillen, author
Your relationship with yourself is the longest one you’ll ever have. Make it a loving, loyal, and lifelong friendship.
Stretching alongside you,
Amy
